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7 Day Relationship Enrichment Challenge

Hi friends. Today I’d like to invite you to join me in experiencing a 7 Day Relationship Enrichment Challenge. Below, you’ll see seven simple things you can do to demonstrate selfless, Christlike love to your partner. These are things that ultimately, you’ll want to do more even when the challenge is over.

Perhaps you’re going through a tough time and you’re finding it difficult to love your partner. Maybe you’ve been together for so long that things have gotten a little stale and you feel like you’re craving more romance. Or maybe you think you’re doing a great job of loving each other but you want to take things to a new level of selflessness. Regardless of where you’re at, it’s possible to soften your heart even more, and to show deeper love.

Side note: This is a challenge for you! Don’t tell your partner you’re taking part in this, because that defeats the purpose of it all. Just follow the steps and start to serve your partner more selflessly, without asking for anything in return. Don’t use this as an opportunity to invite your partner to join in so that he/she can learn to serve you better. You’re here to learn to serve. There’s something so significant about having a servant heart and it’s something I’m working on!

You’ll love this: Get to Know Your Partner’s Love Language

Day 1: Thank him for something specific

1 Cor 1:4 “I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus.”

There are so many verses about the importance of being thankful. There is a direct link between being thankful and being joyful. Yes, most of the scriptures are talking about being thankful to God, but the principle is still the same. Being thankful for things your partner does for you, for who he is, and for the fact that he is in your life, will generate an attitude of being grateful.

Today, make a point of thanking your partner for something specific.

“Thank you for making me coffee today. I really appreciate it!”

“I’m so glad we got to spend the evening together. Thank you for spending quality time with me.”

Day 2: Pray for him

James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”

When you pray, God hears you. Your prayers never fall on deaf ears, so today I want to encourage you to spend some time praying for your partner. You don’t have to pray with your partner, but rather do this during your own quality time with God. Not only will God hear you, but your heart will be softened towards your partner.

This list will help you: Nine Prayers to Pray for Your Husband

Day 3: Leave him a note

Prov 12:25 “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” 

Write a note that you can slip into your partner’s work suitcase, his pocket, his favourite book or onto his pillow. Leave it as a surprise that will cheer him up and put a smile on his face. I’ll leave it up to you to decide what to write, but don’t overthink it. If you aren’t usually a letter-writing person, keep it simple and just write something that your partner will appreciate.

Day 4: Hug him

1 Cor 7:3 “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due to her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”

Hugs are great. Men, in particular, love to be shown physical affection. So, today, make a point of hugging him three times for no reason at all. If you don’t usually do this, it will catch him off guard and make him feel awesome. That’s the point, right? To make him feel so loved!

Day 5: Go a whole day without correcting him

Eph 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Today, don’t nag him about things he hasn’t done. Don’t moan about the pile of socks he’s left on the bathroom floor or the fact that the you had the put the toilet seat down. Don’t get irritated that he was five minutes late and you had to wait for him. Think of today as an exercise in grace.

Day 6: Honour him in front of other people

Rom 12:10 “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honour.”

There are plenty of ways to honour your partner in public. Pick a way that he will appreciate. A Facebook status, a cute Instagram picture, or a simple “Wow, Glen is such a talented musician” in front of his friends. Make a point of honouring him in front of other people today.

Day 7: Plan a date that he will love

Prov 11:25 “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”

When planning a date, think of things your partner will love. His favourite meal or drink, an outdoor hike, a visit to his favourite coffee shop. Make a point of keeping your phone packed away in your handbag so you can have quality time together. The date doesn’t have to cost you anything, but it should give you an opportunity to give your partner your undivided attention.

Here are some more date ideas: Date Ideas

Every day: Say “I love you”

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This challenge is meant to encourage us to be more selfless for more than just these 7 days. I hope and pray that we are all inspired to love in a more deep and selfless way, and that this challenge overflows into a longlasting attitude of servanthood.

I’d love to hear how this 7 day challenge has enriched your relationship, so please get in touch and tell me about it! You can leave a comment below, or you can connect with me via email. If you click right over here and you’ll also get some awesome free printables right in your inbox.

What’s the difference between spending time together and having quality time together?

Today, Glen and I are celebrating seven wonderful years of being a couple. He asked me to be his girlfriend on 24 October 2009 and since then I’ve upgraded to “wife” status and I couldn’t be happier.

We are by no means relationship experts, but we’ve figured out a few things that work for us and help us to love each other and demonstrate our love better. We’ve always known that romance doesn’t always come easy and sometimes it takes more work than other times. Sometimes we have to make a little extra effort to show our appreciation and it is totally worth it.

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Glen and I both work from home so we get to spend a lot of time together. We pretty much spend 95% of our time together and we aren’t sick of each other. However, because we spend so much time together we can easily be tricked into thinking we’ve had loads of quality time together. But really, how much of our time together is quality time? We often have to evaluate how much of our time has been spent watching TV and just doing things in the same room.

Think about how much time you spend doing things with your partner where you are both facing the same direction. Watching TV, playing Playstation, and driving in the car. Now, I will say that there is a time and a place for doing things together that allow you to both “switch off”. After a long day of working hard and being exhausted, it is totally okay (and sometimes necessary) to watch TV and just veg on the couch. Being able to do nothing together is a sign that you are completely comfortable together and you don’t have to be entertaining one another in order to relax.

We will continue to switch off together because it’s something we enjoy. During our lunch break we watch MasterChef Australia and we love it. It makes us cook better and we find ourselves emotionally invested in a stranger’s food journey. We like it and I know a lot of other people who do too. I’m not telling you to stop watching TV together, because I’m sure as heck not willing to make that sacrifice.

So, something we have implemented is quality face-to-face time. Every day, we try to spend at least an hour together where we are facing each other. This is a great time to make a cup of coffee and chat, to bring out our favourite board game or to read to each other.

We’re also making more of an effort to sit on the same couch. Our lounge is laid out in such a way that we could each have our own couch that faces the TV. It’s pretty comfortable, but it makes it really easy to each be doing our own thing in the same room. So, now when we watch TV we try to sit on the same couch. It’s more of a squash, but it’s totally worth it. I’m not a huge cuddler but I do like to be close to my husband, and sitting on the same couch allows me to do that.

Here’s my challenge to you: this week, find an activity that you can do with your partner where you are facing each other. Make a point of getting at least 15 minutes of face-to-face quality time together. You don’t have to have deep conversations. You just have to be looking at each other.