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7 Day Relationship Enrichment Challenge

Hi friends. Today I’d like to invite you to join me in experiencing a 7 Day Relationship Enrichment Challenge. Below, you’ll see seven simple things you can do to demonstrate selfless, Christlike love to your partner. These are things that ultimately, you’ll want to do more even when the challenge is over.

Perhaps you’re going through a tough time and you’re finding it difficult to love your partner. Maybe you’ve been together for so long that things have gotten a little stale and you feel like you’re craving more romance. Or maybe you think you’re doing a great job of loving each other but you want to take things to a new level of selflessness. Regardless of where you’re at, it’s possible to soften your heart even more, and to show deeper love.

Side note: This is a challenge for you! Don’t tell your partner you’re taking part in this, because that defeats the purpose of it all. Just follow the steps and start to serve your partner more selflessly, without asking for anything in return. Don’t use this as an opportunity to invite your partner to join in so that he/she can learn to serve you better. You’re here to learn to serve. There’s something so significant about having a servant heart and it’s something I’m working on!

You’ll love this: Get to Know Your Partner’s Love Language

Day 1: Thank him for something specific

1 Cor 1:4 “I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus.”

There are so many verses about the importance of being thankful. There is a direct link between being thankful and being joyful. Yes, most of the scriptures are talking about being thankful to God, but the principle is still the same. Being thankful for things your partner does for you, for who he is, and for the fact that he is in your life, will generate an attitude of being grateful.

Today, make a point of thanking your partner for something specific.

“Thank you for making me coffee today. I really appreciate it!”

“I’m so glad we got to spend the evening together. Thank you for spending quality time with me.”

Day 2: Pray for him

James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”

When you pray, God hears you. Your prayers never fall on deaf ears, so today I want to encourage you to spend some time praying for your partner. You don’t have to pray with your partner, but rather do this during your own quality time with God. Not only will God hear you, but your heart will be softened towards your partner.

This list will help you: Nine Prayers to Pray for Your Husband

Day 3: Leave him a note

Prov 12:25 “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” 

Write a note that you can slip into your partner’s work suitcase, his pocket, his favourite book or onto his pillow. Leave it as a surprise that will cheer him up and put a smile on his face. I’ll leave it up to you to decide what to write, but don’t overthink it. If you aren’t usually a letter-writing person, keep it simple and just write something that your partner will appreciate.

Day 4: Hug him

1 Cor 7:3 “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due to her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”

Hugs are great. Men, in particular, love to be shown physical affection. So, today, make a point of hugging him three times for no reason at all. If you don’t usually do this, it will catch him off guard and make him feel awesome. That’s the point, right? To make him feel so loved!

Day 5: Go a whole day without correcting him

Eph 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Today, don’t nag him about things he hasn’t done. Don’t moan about the pile of socks he’s left on the bathroom floor or the fact that the you had the put the toilet seat down. Don’t get irritated that he was five minutes late and you had to wait for him. Think of today as an exercise in grace.

Day 6: Honour him in front of other people

Rom 12:10 “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honour.”

There are plenty of ways to honour your partner in public. Pick a way that he will appreciate. A Facebook status, a cute Instagram picture, or a simple “Wow, Glen is such a talented musician” in front of his friends. Make a point of honouring him in front of other people today.

Day 7: Plan a date that he will love

Prov 11:25 “Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”

When planning a date, think of things your partner will love. His favourite meal or drink, an outdoor hike, a visit to his favourite coffee shop. Make a point of keeping your phone packed away in your handbag so you can have quality time together. The date doesn’t have to cost you anything, but it should give you an opportunity to give your partner your undivided attention.

Here are some more date ideas: Date Ideas

Every day: Say “I love you”

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This challenge is meant to encourage us to be more selfless for more than just these 7 days. I hope and pray that we are all inspired to love in a more deep and selfless way, and that this challenge overflows into a longlasting attitude of servanthood.

I’d love to hear how this 7 day challenge has enriched your relationship, so please get in touch and tell me about it! You can leave a comment below, or you can connect with me via email. If you click right over here and you’ll also get some awesome free printables right in your inbox.

How We Had the Best Getting-Ready Experience on Our Wedding Day

When I pictured the morning of my wedding day, there were a few things that came to mind: tea, champagne, laughter, snacks and no rigid timeline. With nine bridesmaids and plenty of helping hands coming in and out, I was surprised to have the exact getting-ready experience that I wanted. And this is how we did it…

All photos by Love Made Visible

We had a plan

You know what they say: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

A relaxing morning doesn’t just happen. It takes even just a little bit of planning. Coordinating a huge group of girls is quite a task and it helped a lot that my girls were so flexible.

A couple of weeks before my wedding, I contacted all my girls to let them know a few things:

  1. What time to be at my house.
  2. Which girls should be dropped off and who should keep their car around and become a driver for the day (this involved a lot of coordinating and flexibility).
  3. What to bring. In this case: lunch, snacks, nailpolish, makeup, hair products and extra mirrors.

We didn’t hire professional help for the entire bridal party

There are a few reasons we didn’t hire professional hair and make up artists for all the bridesmaids:

  1. There were nine bridesmaids, so it would end up being quite pricey.
  2. We simply didn’t have time for each bridesmaid to get her make up and hair done one at a time.
  3. My girls are pretty great at doing hair and make up already.

This strategy really helped us to have a relaxing morning. I painted my own nails on the day, while we all sat around and ate snacks.

My makeup was done by one of my bridesmaids and then a lovely friend, Nicole, came over to do my hair.

 

While this was going down, the girls were all helping each other get ready. Having nine girls get ready at once takes a lot less time than having each girl get ready one at a time, even with the help of a professional.

This was something that worked well for us, and I am by no means saying that a professional hair and make up artist isn’t worth the money. Believe me, if you have the time and money to do it, then please do!

 

I had some time to get ready alone

The one thing I worried about was being surrounded by people 24/7 and perhaps feeling a little rushed and flustered. We made sure there was plenty of time to get ready, and I slipped away and got dressed in my room, with the help of my mom.

 

While I was getting ready, the girls were putting final touches to their outfits.

 

Then, everyone gathered in the lounge for the “big reveal” photo…

 

That gave me the perfect moment to hand out some pretty gifts to my girls. I specifically told them all not to buy their own earrings and I gave them each a pair of pretty gold leaf earrings that fit into our wedding theme. The rest of the gift included a personal note for each girl and a pack of bridesmaid essentials (mints, bobby pins, pain killers and that sort of thing).

 

Around about the time that this photo was taken (below) was when the nerves kicked in and I started to realise I’d be walking down the aisle towards my groom and in front of everyone we know and love…

 

Want to see what the boys got up to on the morning of our wedding? Their morning was less planned out (not having to put on make up will allow for more flexibility) but still relaxing, like we wanted.

 

Glen also had a little something for his friends, and he received a little something from me too…

 

Glen’s mom made all the bouquets and button holes and I couldn’t leave this photo out of our getting-ready story:

 

Just take a look at the best looking bridal party ever!

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