Noun | the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).
I am a happily married woman and I have many happily married friends. Recently I started thinking about why people choose to get married. Do we do it because this is just what people do? Has society convinced us that marriage is something we need to do? Is “being in love” a good enough reason to choose to marry someone?
So, I did some research and got some real life humans to tell me why they chose to get married. I think you might find this interesting. Read to the end to see why I chose to get married.
– As it’s God design and to have children, creating a family. Gods family!
– A public declaration of your love for each other and a life commitment to one another. And to start your life together officially.
– I wanted to travel and work abroad with my partner and we were required to be married in order to obtain the right visas to work and travel freely together… and in the spirit that we were already in a long term committed relationship with the knowledge that we want to travel and build a life together.
– Beverly Clark: “We need a witness to our lives. There are 8 billion people on the planet … I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything — the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things … all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying, ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.’”
– We got married cos we both wanted to start a family and we wanted our children to grow up in a stable, loving home with parents that are happily married. And of course we got married cos we loved each other.
– The older (outdated) opinion that it is expected of you by society to reach certain goals and achievements such as educational degree, marriage, children to say you have lived an ‘accomplished life’.
– Marriage is about a commitment to each other perhaps just in your hearts…not written into any legal paper…… a wedding now that’s quite different……..something to ponder!!??
– We got married because we loved each other and because we believe marriage is God’s design (not society’s) and we felt ready to commit to that and each others’ purpose in life and helping each other get closer to fulfilling that purpose and become closer to God through His design of marriage, commitment and intimacy. (It seems a lot of people say that marriage is expected from society or you need to get married in order to start a proper family – that was not our motivation!)
– We got married to celebrate our love for each other and make a tangible promise do life together. That tangible promise to someone else both feels wonderful in the good times and might help in the bad times – when relationship motivation is low you have a reason to keep trying and keep working: you made a promise. And then we had a wedding so we could celebrate with all the people we love the most in the world and bring them together in one place. Our families got to know each other a bit better and being able to share our story and special day with all our fabourite people was wonderful (sharing good news is almost as exciting as getting good news). Love should be celebrated!
– To honour God, honour family tradition, honour eachother and have SEX as God intended us to.
– We loved each other. I had refused to move in together without at least being engaged… (He moved up from KZN for me) We realised that if we stayed engaged too long, it might just stay that way forever. (Also, we weren’t too thrilled with “living in sin”).
BONUS: This is why I chose to get married:
Firstly, I love my partner, Glen, very much. I can’t imagine not doing life with him and I wanted to officially do life with him by making a formal commitment to him in the eyes of God, our families and the state. I also believe that our individual effect on the world isn’t as great as our combined effort. We work better as a team and I want to formally honour that. Marriage is a gift from God and I’m happy I chose it!
What do YOU think? Leave a comment and tell me why you are choosing marriage.
Getting married soon and want to know more about this incredible journey you’re about to begin? Join us for a Marriage Preparation and Date Night event in Cape Town.
Most couples spend hours and hours planning their wedding and often forget to prepare for the most important journey they are about to begin: marriage. This marriage preparation event is designed to provide you with important tools that will build a strong, loving and fulfilling marriage.
Guest speakers, Phil and Dale Hartmann, have been happily married for over 37 years and have been running a marriage preparation course from their home. These two experts will teach you how to communicate effectively and resolve conflict in a way that brings you closer together.
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Monday 28 August
17:30 for 18:00
Three course meal and beverages included.
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